Every human has a slew of stories that run their lives.
“I’m too tall.”
“Our family is just poor and we always will be.”
“I’m Irish, that means I’ll always have anger issues.”
“Since no one came to my event, I must be a failure. Maybe I’m not even supposed to pursue this dream.”
“I can’t.”
“I’m not smart enough.”
“I know that things will always work out.”
These stories are either helping your life, or making it hard or even impossible to achieve your goals. We have stories around how much money we’re allowed to make. Whether we can live in a certain house, or if we’re a good parent. We have stories about other people. “If he really loved me, he’d pick up the clothes and put them in the hamper!”
Stories can be long term or short term. Meaning you can have a story that runs your entire life- like “People like me just don’t get to have nice things.” Or you can create a story around a circumstance.
Changing your story, changes your life. The most important truth to know is that stories can and do change. You have the power to rewrite your stories. In order to be happy, you’ll need to learn this skill.
Here are 3 Steps to begin to change your story today.
Be aware of your current story. You can’t change what you can’t see. So be aware of the things you tell yourself every day. What are common phrases in your mind about your relationships, work, and health? Write a few of them down. One example of a crappy story you’d want to change is, “People don’t want to hear about what I have to sell.”
Decide what you’d like to see instead. Most people never do this. They wish, they hope, they get frustrated. But they don’t simply decide what they want. Take some time to write down 3-5 things you want to see happen this year. For example, instead of being frustrated about people not wanting to hear your offer, list 3-5 people you’d like to work with. Or 3-5 companies that would benefit from your services and be great to work with.
Take action! Once you notice the story you have that needs to change, then choose what you want, next it’s time to act. Start to tell yourself a different story. Start to live that new story. Start to say, “People want to hear what I have to say. I have something to offer. I’m going to share it with people so they can reach their goals.” Then send the email! Make the phone call. Write the post. Be the person those clients want to work with.
It’s simple, but guess what? You’re mind responds to this simple process in amazing ways. Stories are our connection to the subconscious that runs 95% of our lives. Give it a try today and see what happens.
To learn more about overcoming overwhelm and running your business with peace and confidence, reach out to lifeback@cyrinatalbott.com. Cyrina Talbott is owner of The Mindset Transformation Company. www.cyrinatalbott.com