The first time I ever went to a therapist, I said, “I’d like a pill to fix me. If there isn’t a pill, I’ll give you like 6 weeks tops to get this figured out.” She laughed at me! She was an amazing woman. And wanting to fix years of pain with a pill instantly is kinda funny.
I was devastated to learn this whole “healing” process takes time. I had another psychologist tell me I needed to spend time loving my inner child. I never went back to him! What the heck does it mean to “love your inner child"? I pictured myself rocking in a corner. That’s not what he meant, I know, but it’s what I pictured! And there was no way I was going to do that.
I was so relieved and thrilled when I first heard Brene Brown’s Ted Talk about how she hated going back to her past to figure out her present and heal. I thought I was the only person who resisted this stuff.
I now know with every bone in my body that it works. I learned through experience and I even became a therapist! I found and learned a method that works quickly, because I still want to have this process take as little time as possible! I’m now able to say I’ve walked this path and I totally believe in it. But I have been resistant pretty much every step of the way.
Every healing concept— going to your past, loving yourself, gratitude, meditation (which for me involves God), learning to “let go”, forgiveness, allowing— have been hard for me to grasp. Eventually I get it, but it takes me a while… My first response is usually, “No. Let’s try anything but that.”
So why did I keep going? Because I want to heal. I need to heal. For my kids. For my relationships. For myself. I have to do this stuff.
And here’s the amazing thing. It works.
But what’s even more amazing to me is the size of the problems. What I mean by that is this. When I resisted the steps and process of healing my past and living the life I really want, the problems were huge. The problems in my relationship were huge. My frustration was huge and my pain was huge.
But as I went back to my past, as I dug up the roots to get freedom once and for all- the problems shrank. They became manageable, small, and many disappeared entirely.
So today if you are looking at some huge problems in your life- in marriage, family, health or in your own mind- know that you’re on the right path. This crazy, touchy-feely-face-your-crap-path, is right where you’re supposed to be. I see you. I’ve walked it. It’s hell sometimes. It’s miraculous at others. It’s both most of the time. And it’s the only way to freedom. I promise you will never regret the decision put on your big girl panties, (or big boy panties) and just keep going. That can include (and did include for me) lots of help! Counselors, therapists, books, YouTube videos, and friends. If you need help, get it. You are worth it. You are enough. You got this!
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