We are coming up on the end of January. A time when a lot of people are still thinking about health goals. If you have committed to eat better, drink more water, eat less sugar, or wheat or dairy, or whatever, then I want to share a powerful tool with you.
When you operate by default, you end up thinking that things aren’t fair. That other people have it easier. That you are the only one who can’t eat pizza. Or bread. Or sugar. This thinking puts you in a place of feeling powerless and weak. You’re telling a story where you’re the victim. Life isn’t fair. You can do this about any area of our lives, but I’m going to focus on eating right now.
You tell yourself a story about food. This story is true. Even if it’s not. Your mind can’t tell the difference. If you tell a story like the one above where it’s not fair, that everyone else gets to eat pizza and you don’t, then your mind will get busy finding all the reasons that’s true. You’ll focus on people who get to eat what you can’t. You’ll notice every last reason that it’s not fair- you’ll be like a magnet to it! No one else will even see all the unfairness. And as you see the ways it’s not fair, you’ll feel terrible!
How about you tell a better story. What if there are millions of other people who also have restrictions. Because there are. Millions who embrace restrictions. Think about what actors eat. Some have to gain muscle for certain roles. What athletes eat. What dancers eat. They have to be very aware of how the food they eat makes them operate and perform. Think of what a doctor who works a 12 hour shift gets to eat. Or a nurse. A dentist refuses to eat garlic or onions so that she doesn’t have terrible breath for clients. Or doesn’t drink tea or coffee so her teeth stay white. A vegetarian doesn’t eat meat. But we don’t hear them complaining all day about how it’s not fair. Not to mention the early hours to get up and work out for athletes, years of study for doctors, hours of hot makeup or uncomfortable costumes for actors. I’m sure there are many other examples you can think of.Read More