Most of the time I’m pretty chill. A lot of people call me peaceful even. My kids don’t, but other people do… But one thing that totally gets me angry is when people feel like crap for behaviors that they do that are hurtful to themselves, behaviors that they’re trying to quit. I see clients with debilitating depression, addiction, eating issues, self sabotage, and anxiety, who are blaming themselves for not being strong enough to just be positive or quit the behavior. Maybe you’ve been there. You think, “If I were stronger I wouldn’t be dealing with this, I feel so dumb that I haven’t gotten over this yet. I know better.”
Traditional therapy and psychology are amazing at helping you understand why you’re doing the things you’re doing. But that’s not enough! What good is it to have someone tell you, “Well, I can see why you have anxiety. You had this scary experience when you were three and now your brain is stuck in fight or flight.” Then they send you home!
And you feel like, “Well, that confirms what I already knew. There’s something wrong with me. Now it’s official.” And you get to feel like a broken person the rest of your life. You may learn coping skills, but you’re never given the option to retrain your brain so that you aren’t stuck anymore! That drives me nuts! Or worse, someone gives you advice like ‘Just think positively. Just pray more. It’s all in your head.’ Many people hear that and it just confirms even further the notion that there’s something wrong with them.
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